A Twitter user, @Damie Bolaji, gave her followers more than 40 reasons why she does NOT want to give birth to children in her lifetime.
Read her tweets below:
*assumes Presidential media pose* *adjusts glasses* *clears throat* Fellow Nigerians… I am kidding.. Thank you very much for having me #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
1. Very often in public discussions, most issues tend to polarise in a flash, and nuance is replaced with caricature… #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
2. ..Let’s try to remain focused on the issues tonight. Thank you #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
3. That said, let’s begin. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
4. I grew up in a family of 6, what you would call a large family; the 4th of 6 children.Till date, I still wonder how mum did it #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
5. As a young child, I wanted to have four kids, because I was the 4th, that was in primary school through secondary school. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
6. I never thought about it again until I had my first niece. That was when I started to see what child rearing is about. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
7. So, I thought 3 kids. When I had the second niece; I thought definitely nobody should have more than one child. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
8. Right now, I think zero!
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
9. And I will tell you why I recently spent a few days with a young mother, I noticed how many times the baby had to be fed;.. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
10. …how you had to rock him before his eyes will close, and how much care and fuss goes into making his life comfortable. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
11. Would I really be patient enough to do all these? #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
12. Let’s back up a little bit to before the baby is born. 9 months of torture, raging hormones, restricted diet.. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
13… with a compromised immune system; and ofcourse getting fat 
..#Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
14. After all these, comes labour pains 
, and the wear and TEAR that happens to certain parts of the body 
(ps: CS costs money too) #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
15. Let us not forget that Nigeria has one of the highest maternal mortality rates in the world…and even child mortality!!! #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
16. Then breastfeeding; night feeding; immunisations; measles; ingesting substances e.g. Perfumes, erasers, etc. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
17. In the past, some folks have responded to my apprehension about having lots of kids with “I will have money to care of them”… #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
18. …while one cannot overstate the importance of money in child rearing, money alone isn’t enough. Hello? Mutallab!!! #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
19. You need time to raise kids, time is a Finite resource, and it is more valuable than money. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
20. The question is child-rearing a judicious use of one’s time? Hold that thought.. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
21. Shall we consider the economic side? It is hard to get solid research on how much it costs to raise a kid in Nigeria. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
22. But let us think about the basics, I hear the costs of diapers vary with brand and size …#Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
23. but the young mother spends about 900bucks weekly on diapers and it will increase… #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
24. There’s Baby food; clothes (you will be surprised how fast they outgrow their clothes. Unless ofcourse, you already have kids) #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
25. Creche gave/Daycare; regular food; fun trips; amusement parks; toys, *Side eyes* Doc Mc Stuffin, Princess Sophia *rme* . #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
26. If you live in Nigeria, you don’t have access to quality, free basic education. You will pay school fees for 21 years or more
#Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
27. …Unless your kid is smart enough get scholarships from secondary school till Uni. You will feed & clothe them during these years #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
28. So what is the ROI (Return on Investment) of having Children? #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
29. Did I forget to mention the emotional strain children have on marriages? There is a chance the mother shifts focus to her kid..#Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
30… ignores Le boo, relationship begins to suffer, in the bedroom and otherwise #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
31. Children also take away your Saturdays 
unless you want to be one of those people who carry weepy babies around 
#Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
32. And you can’t just turn up like that on a Friday night, or hang out with friends.. Except you totally trust your maid… #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
32. But good parents spend time with their children, so kmt. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
33. See if I don’t have children, le boo and I can ‘up and leave’ at any time. We can relocate without having to worry about schools. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
34. We can travel the world without having to bother about little ones cramping our style. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
35. And when shit hits the fan, you know you o only have to worry about one other person. Not three or four.. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
36. Why would I want to have children in a world like this? There is so much evil and corruption…#Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
37. Drugs, child abuse,rape? You should really be worked up about the last two if you live in Nigeria & intend to raise children here. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
38. I have heard some people say that you cannot you understand love until you have children. Well maybe they are right.. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
39. The world is meaningless without children. All the technology, science and research would be pointless without children. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
40. I don’t think child rearing is for everybody. I mean the planet is over populated already. . #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
41. And it’s not the two children I would have had that will save the human race from extinction. #Nhbi
— Dami. (@damiebolaji) October 28, 2015
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